by Emma Inkester
At Barry’s we believe in balance – yes hard work and discipline are key, but so is FUN. Life is for living. It’s about helping you shape your own lifestyle and happiness, your way. So how to grab hold of that elusive “balance”? Here are a few tips. It’s a big topic, so we’ve split it into two bite-size chunks: the physical and the mental. Part 1, the Physical is here. This week we discuss the Mental.
Don’t get us wrong, we advocate discipline. It’s essential to a healthy regime. But not discipline so rigid that you never let yourself indulge in what you really enjoy. Whether that be some good quality chocolate, a glass of great wine, or a bit of a shopping spree. Life is for living, and you deserve a reward for all the hard work you put in. Those rewards don’t always need to be of the calorific kind, although it is true that if you never have a little of what you really crave then you are liable to buckle under the restraint in the end and go spectacularly the other way.
Allow yourself to spend time pampering yourself, hanging out with your closest friends and doing things you enjoy. Step off the treadmill (literally and figuratively) every now and again and smell the roses.
Don’t beat yourself up
What would you tell your best friend if they messed up with something? Would you shout at them, tell them they’re worthless and useless? No, you probably wouldn’t even shout at your worst enemy like that. You’d tell your friend that they’ve messed up but that doesn’t mean they are messed up. To pick themselves up and keep on going, and you’ll be there to catch them next time they fall. So why are we so harsh on ourselves? We should treat ourselves with love, like our own best friends, but we don’t. We beat ourselves up constantly. Please stop right there.
We all have bad days, we all fall off the healthy living bandwagon, but it’s what we do after that matters. What’s important is that we look at what went wrong and learn from it, then put it behind us and jump right back on the wagon. Don’t let the guilt fester. Be kind to yourself, you deserve it.
Never forget, time is precious
Do you really need to spend those three hours stalking your ex on facebook, twitter, linkedin and Instagram, then another two watching videos of dancing cats on youtube? Sorry, just in case you are wavering on the cats, the answer is NO. You’ll never get that time back. Give yourself a five minute procrastination break then go and DO SOMETHING. Whether it’s getting some work done, responding to emails, calling a friend or getting outside, do it. You won’t look back in 20 years and be glad you watched that fiftieth episode of Friends in a row, we promise. Own your day, and make it count. It’s a cliché, but each minute is a blessing, use it wisely.
And finally…you are in charge of you
You can’t please everyone all of the time. Your boss wants you to meet that deadline, but working late means you will miss your friend’s housewarming, and you haven’t had a chance to work out for a few days. What do YOU want to do? It’s OK to be selfish sometimes. Take control of your life and your priorities- only you can truly know what is best for you and the equilibrium that works for your personal productivity. Once you have the control back, that sense of balance won’t be far behind.
What works for you? How do you keep the balance in your life and keep sane? We’d love to hear your ideas. Comment below or tweet to us!
Emma Inkester is a full-time lawyer, part-time fitness junkie and blogger. She is passionate about sharing the journey to a healthy and happy lifestyle with others, and would love to hear from you with comments, questions and article requests. She can also be found on Twitter: @emmaink